I’ve been diving into this incredible book, “The Mastery of Love,” and it’s been so inspiring that I had to share my thoughts on it with you. Honestly, I think everyone should read it! It got me reflecting, so I decided to write this post based on my current read.
Back in the summer of 2011, I shared an article about ways to feel sexier. Consider this the updated and even more exciting version, inspired by my book journey. Feeling sexy is truly about having confidence. With that in mind, here are six ways to boost your confidence and feel sexy right now:
1. Put an end to negative self-talk straight away. If you find yourself thinking you’re fat, unattractive, or not worthy, just stop. Changing your mindset really is as simple as flipping that thought to a positive one. Remember, you choose your thoughts. As I’ve mentioned on my blog before, YOU ARE YOUR OWN BEST CHEERLEADER. Constantly criticizing yourself doesn’t invite respect from others. Love your body—it’s the only one you have.
2. Check out your body often. Take a good look at your naked self in the mirror before showering or while skin brushing, at least five times a week. At first, it might be uncomfortable, but each time will get easier. Here’s how to embrace this practice and learn to love yourself as you are.
3. Acknowledge something you love about yourself every single day. It can be physical or nonphysical. Write it down, and read it aloud. For example: “I have beautiful arms. They allow me to hug my loved ones, pet my dog, throw a ball, and lift my groceries.”
4. Embrace vulnerability when it arises. Share how you’re feeling with someone else—it’s natural to feel scared, weak, or unsure sometimes. By sharing your vulnerabilities, you allow others to see the real you. Although I found this challenging in past relationships, I now understand that genuine connection requires lowering your defenses.
Being open and honest with your feelings leads to greater love and respect from others.
5. Never tolerate being belittled or abused by anyone. While constructive criticism is valuable, if you’re in a relationship filled with negativity and lacking love, it’s time to move on. You have the power to make that change. When you are confident, demand that others treat you as you deserve—with respect. This is crucial, so read it again!
6. Nourish your body with healthy foods. Eating well-builds confidence. Avoid processed foods, refined sugar, excessive alcohol (more than one or two drinks daily), and overly cooked meals, and ensure variety in your diet. Your brain relies on the nutrients in your meals to create the neurotransmitters needed for positive thinking, radiant skin, and shiny hair.
Have a wonderful day!
—Joy
Linda, thank you for your uplifting words! Isn’t it amazing what a little “digesting the good stuff” can do for the soul? It’s a pleasure to know you.
Thank you for the kind words, Linda! I’m always here to assist.
Joy, this article is amazing! I’ve shared it on my page. Thank you!
Your holistic approach to health, focusing equally on mental and physical aspects, is truly refreshing. You’ve brightened my day once more.
Hi!
The book sounds fascinating, and I’d love to read it. Could you tell me the author?
Thank you,
Jennifer
Joy, those tips are fantastic—thanks a million! I’m sharing them with everyone, especially the women. Have a beautiful day!
Marvelous! Thank you for sharing, Marcia.
Based on your recommendation, I just started reading this book and absolutely love it. Thank you for sharing.
My favorite part of your writing is, “The raw materials to make neurotransmitters (brain chemicals) to think happy thoughts, create beautiful skin, shiny hair can be found on your dinner plate.” Wonderfully put, Joy!
